I have been researching about parenting styles I never came across all these  parenting styles. I just discovered 8 more parenting styles: Positive, attachment, spiritual, unconditional, slow, helicopter, narcissistic, and toxic parenting. Positive parenting relies on the principle of  psychology that talks about human happiness, fulfillment and meaningfulness.  Attachment parenting focuses on the principle of the attachment theory (secure, avoidant, ambivalent, and disorganized attachment). Unconditional parenting is about encouraging children to work their way into their natural character instead of trying to change who they really are in order to feel accepted or appreciated.

People get tattoos for a number of reasons. In today’s world, a lot of tattoos have personal meanings for people. according to Roberts, there is a difference in people that have tattoos and tattooed people. Tattooed people have tattoos in places that are often difficult to hide and they are more likely what the person truly feels or believes. Where as a person with tattoos tends to have a few tats that are easily hidden and portray what the person sees himself as but is not a direct portrayal of that person as a whole.

I looked to political figures who are famous for having tattoos. I found none. This is because, tattoos have had a stigma in the United States for a long time as a portrayal of someone who is either deviant or has some mental issues. neither of these portrayals is particularly beneficial in a politician. At least not in today’s age.

In today’s world, especially within today’s “Youth”, I don’t see tattoos as a seriously negative stigma. Sure there are the select few people who have neck tattoos or face tattoos that basically are branding themselves as deviants, but in general, tattoos are far more positively received today that they were say 20 years ago.

Therefore, I see tattoos becoming less and less of marks of deviance in the future. Even as far as politics goes. In the future, i think and i hope that politics are more focused on true issues and personal responsibilities than they are on appearance or stigmas. It’s getting close but we aren’t there yet. I wouldn’t be surprised to see a moderately tattooed person running for political office in the near future.

http://www.smithsonianmag.com/ist/?next=/history/tattoos-144038580/

Tattoo Therapy: Storying the Self on Reality TV in Neoliberal Times By: Woodstock, Louise, Journal of Popular Culture, 00223840, August 1, 2014, Vol. 47, Issue 4

By: Roberts, Derek John; Journal of American Culture, 2012 June; 35 (2): 153-165. (journal article) ISSN: 1542-7331; 1542-734X (electronic); Sequence number: 2012-9-3728 Accession number: 2012381598

Since my last post was about developing good decision making in children, I figured the next step would be to look at decision making in the adult world and what I found didn’t exactly surprise me as much as it reminded me how willing some people are to give up their moves to the big guy in the sky. I began with a google search for “Grown up decisions” and the first thing i read was a blog by a mommy about finding a new house for her and her small family to live in. They found this cool 1920s era home with a big back yard and everything that she thought she wanted in a house for her family. It cost more money and her and her husband wrote out a budget and figured out that they could afford it even though it was like 850$ more a month than their current house. After this, as if they hadn’t made up their own minds all ready, she said that they had to pray to God about it and ask him if it was right for them and if it was His plan for them to live in that house. The mommy wrote how she gave up all control of this decision to God and had “total peace”. In the end, her and her family were offered the house but they asked for a reduced rental price by 200$ and the owners said no and rented it to another family. But she wasn’t sad because she prayed about it. Instead she was proud for her and her husband sticking to their principles and not taking on something that would be so financially burdensome. It was her view that that would’t have been possible without prayer, and i guess i could see that if i saw prayer as the same as i see weighing options and being realistic. But this just shows me that often, especially “adults”, look for a coping method for making decisions that lead to some sort of disappointment, even if it is the “right decision” personally or financially. Nothing wrong with looking for an outlet for all your troubles if you can see it as “all part of God’s plan for me”, i guess.

Another article i read didn’t mention God at all! But it had the same sort theme. It wasn’t about renting a house, however, it was about travel. This woman saw the excitement in both getting up and going on adventures and in working in a career that she loved, making decent money, and just being self sufficient. She had a novel idea of adjusting expectations and living in her own reality. This lead her to being accepting of her decisions and content with her life.

As i read about ideas on helping kids develop methods of making good decisions, i agreed with a lot of what was said, but it just seemed like there is nothing like the experience of making decisions that gets you more ready to make more decisions, better. I think back to things that i decided when i was young that actually helped form a path for my life and how it impacts my life to this day. the earliest important decision i made that still impacts me today wasn’t until 6th grade when i decided that i wanted to play the drums. I wanted to do it, so i did. I wanted to get better, so i practiced and i did. As i entered high school, i picked and chose more about how i studied and how much of the subject i studied. I still love to play to this day, not much makes me feel more happy. BUT I don’t do anything with it professionally, and the busier i get in my educational and professional life, along with my personal life, the less i play. So how important was this decision overall? I think it is great still, because it impacted lots of decisions that i made in the past before i got more serious about school, and finances, and life in general. BUT i also made decisions in regards to this activity that i look back on and i wish i had done something differently. So How has this decision that i made in 6th grade impacted me in my life? Both positively and negatively. Was it a good decision? of course it was. But it wasn’t all the best. So, what is in making a good decision if that decision leads you to make both good and bad decisions? I could never expect any child going into 6th grade to be able to look into the future and see how a decision is going to impact you one way or  another 10-15 years down the road.