So from my reading this week, i learned that the process of making decisions as adults means that you need to have some sort of method in being accepting of your decisions that may be in some way disappointing. Some people like to give it all up to God. Because who can argue with an all powerful being that is in control of your life’s path? Makes sense to me. If what happens in your life happens for a reason and is leading you to your destiny, then you have to be accepting of your position.
Another standpoint is the “Look at your reality and adjust your expectations to be realistic”. If you can successfully do this, then you are in control of your own emotions and therefore you can make yourself happy or sad in your own reality.
I can see the benefits of both stand points. There will always be some things that are out of our control that have an impact on our lives and I could see how it can be comforting to believe that these factors are put in place by someone who has a plan for our lives.
I also can see how it is important to strive for the ability to adjust our expectations and create happiness in our own realities. We are, after all, in this life to live. If we have the power, and I think we all do to a certain extent, to take control of our emotions and of our own happiness, then we are better off in the long run. For being in a content state can lead us to making informed decisions to further promote our happiness.