Since my last post was about developing good decision making in children, I figured the next step would be to look at decision making in the adult world and what I found didn’t exactly surprise me as much as it reminded me how willing some people are to give up their moves to the big guy in the sky. I began with a google search for “Grown up decisions” and the first thing i read was a blog by a mommy about finding a new house for her and her small family to live in. They found this cool 1920s era home with a big back yard and everything that she thought she wanted in a house for her family. It cost more money and her and her husband wrote out a budget and figured out that they could afford it even though it was like 850$ more a month than their current house. After this, as if they hadn’t made up their own minds all ready, she said that they had to pray to God about it and ask him if it was right for them and if it was His plan for them to live in that house. The mommy wrote how she gave up all control of this decision to God and had “total peace”. In the end, her and her family were offered the house but they asked for a reduced rental price by 200$ and the owners said no and rented it to another family. But she wasn’t sad because she prayed about it. Instead she was proud for her and her husband sticking to their principles and not taking on something that would be so financially burdensome. It was her view that that would’t have been possible without prayer, and i guess i could see that if i saw prayer as the same as i see weighing options and being realistic. But this just shows me that often, especially “adults”, look for a coping method for making decisions that lead to some sort of disappointment, even if it is the “right decision” personally or financially. Nothing wrong with looking for an outlet for all your troubles if you can see it as “all part of God’s plan for me”, i guess.
Another article i read didn’t mention God at all! But it had the same sort theme. It wasn’t about renting a house, however, it was about travel. This woman saw the excitement in both getting up and going on adventures and in working in a career that she loved, making decent money, and just being self sufficient. She had a novel idea of adjusting expectations and living in her own reality. This lead her to being accepting of her decisions and content with her life.